Completely Naked

Jeff's Mom

When I first met her I didn't think I would like her.  She is a blueblood type from the east coast and looks every bit the part, especially with her silvery grey hair cut in a perfect bob.

I was totally wrong!

I've been spending a lot of time at their new place.  It is right on the coast in SF and I can walk right over to China beach on sunny days.  She and I have a lot in common and a lot to talk about.  She is my new best girlfriend right now.  Ok, my only female friend pretty much ever.  We go shopping together and out to lunch.  We even flew over to NYC a couple of weeks ago so that she could pick up a few things from the apartment.

I thought Jeff might be jealous but he isn't.  "I lived with her for 20-something years bro.  I don't need to be with her anymore.  You take her."  Nathan on the other hand isn't fully understanding my new infatuation with this woman but is willing to ride it out as long as it is "just a phase."

I highly recommend getting rid of your, I really hate this term there has to be a better one that I'm not thinking of, "fag hags," and get yourself a blueblood older woman.

Hope you guys have a great weekend.

j

Doing fine

Nathan and I are doing just fine.  I've been online maybe twice in the last few weeks.  We are finally getting settled into the new digs both in SF and the other place.  It has been difficult.

The renovations are coming along.  The insides of the place have been completely ripped out.  It looks really weird.  I'm driving Jeff crazy arguing with him over the little stuff like where to put extra outlets.  He thinks I'm being too detailed but I say everyone will be much happier if I force paying attention to the details.

We are in SF the next two days.  It is a gorgeous 71 degrees and sunny.

j

Work Naked

. . . in my fantasy world I would work naked. 

Well I finally started work.  I forgot how faced paced things are in the real world.  OMG I am so fucking tired.  Nathan just got in bed with me and is playing with my penis so I gotta cut this short cause I need it bad!

later

j

Life is getting complicated . . .

Life isn't really giving me a break this year.  A lot of it, ok all of it, I am doing to myself.  I knew this would be a year of change for me and it is certainly taking that path.

The permits are in place, the plans drawn, and the remodeling is beginning.   Jeff is completely gutting the place and has plans to restore it as close to the original design as possible, with a few hundred additional feet however.  Oh and a rooftop garden private enough to get naked.  Oh and wired up for the 22nd century of course.  The best part is that he is getting rid of all the sand in the backyard he had trucked in last year.

It is all too much for me and Nathan.  We've decided to move out for a few months (more like a year by the looks of things).  Jeff will stay behind as long as he can to oversee things.  I'll bet he will be living in our new digs in a month, or maybe his parents house.

I did finally change my career.  I thought my boss was going to have a heart attack when I told her.  They are still struggling to recover but I am sure I can be replaced.  I start the new job in a few weeks.  I am excited and scared at the same time.  I've been in the slow paced world of not-for-profit for a long time and didn't ever dream that I would go back to the private sector.  It will be challenging but the bank account and retirement fund will be very very happy.

For the most part my job isn't based in San Francisco.  I'm keeping the new city to myself for now.  I'll have an apartment and work there four days a week.  During the summer, while he is off work, Nathan will follow me around.  I think he is more excited than I am about living in two places.

Jeff finally told his parents he is gay.  SHOCK!  They weren't shocked at all.  They knew as many of you suspected they would.  He is mad at them now for not saying anything.  He has a very strange relationship with them.

It is going to be a fucking beautiful weekend in SF.  I may even head down to the beach.

That's it for now.

later

j

Off today

It is a beautiful day out today.  I've just called in to work and let them know I'm not going in.  Now for playtime . . .

Hey

Hey.  I know.  Where the fuck is Jared?  I've been busy working on a non-sexual, non-work, non-personal project.  A friend of mine is trying to publish a new technical book for the industry he works in and I've been trying to help him out by writing a few chapters.  Really more like putting the framework of the story together and cleaning up the delivery.  He is filling in all the blanks and we have an editor correcting all our  grammer and punctuation mistakes.  You know how I am with those . . .

After I work all day then spend the evening at his place to help him write I am totally brain dead and can't even bring myself to write up an entry here.  Needless to say I have no sex drive to play.  Nathan is getting a little mad at me because all I want to do is go to bed every night.

I have tonight free though and thought I would put this quick entry up and then spend it with my man.

later

j

Work stuff, advice and um stuff

I know this isn't the quality pic I usually post but I couldn't pass on sharing this hottie with you guys.

Work is killing me again this week.  We are trying to wrap up some issues before we take them upstate.  It is a high pressure thing that I wish I could just pour out on this blog.  Unfortunately I've seen way to many people fired for blogging about work so you'll never get more than these vague posts about it.

I work hard, most of the time 60 hours a week for, in my opinion, little pay.  My reward is in the fact that I am doing something with my career that is socially responsible.  Sometimes I wonder if it is worth it.  I mean, I used to have the same exact job as Jeff and was just as good as him in pulling in the cash.  Sometimes I think I should just go back.  Unlike Jeff, I save my money and on that kind of pay,  I could retire much sooner than the projected path I am on. OMG you know you're gettin old when you really talk seriously about retirement.

Oh shit, I'm sitting here watching Family Guy while I write this . . . Bert and Ernie are lovers and Bert is a drunk . . .LOL . . . that is the funniest thing I have ever scene . . . Bert is shouting at Ernie and he is whimpering in the bed. . .

Anyway, it would be the same long hours but at least I would be securing my future.  I don't know.  I just wasn't getting any satisfaction from that job and I find my current job so rewarding.  I just hate not having loads and loads of cash.  Of course you should have seen him yesterday and today when the market tanked . . . Jeff is a little stressed out right now too.

Hmmm.  The Lois character's voice is a little different in this episode.  I wonder if the actor change in later ones?

I know I am about to sound like your father but I have some advice for you younger guys.  If you follow my advice I swear you will be a much happier old man than most . . . and you'll be rich enough to have a boytoy on your side.  Trust me on this!  Ok wait, let me get up on my soap box.  Ok.  Start saving 10% of your income the moment you get your first job no matter how young you are.  Don't fucking stop.  Don't fucking spend it!!!  Don't fucking make excuses that you can't afford it right now and you will do it when you are making a little more.  Put it in a 100% stock based mutual fund and just leave it there no matter what the market does.  Contribute to it every paycheck without fail!!!  I guarantee that you will retire a rich man/woman.  Ok.  I am done.

Wow.  This is not what I sat down to post.  I was going to tell you about my massage.  Guess it will have to wait.  Nathan's got that look in his eye.

j

Total Embarrassment

I felt like I was having a panic attack in the waiting room this afternoon.  My heart was racing so hard I could feel the thumping in my ears.  My palms were cold and sweaty and my breathing shallow.  I hate going to the doctor.  Every time I go something embarrassing happens and not in a good way.  I know I have a medical fetish when it is playtime but when I really have to go for something I'm not thinking about sex or my fetish.  I'm thinking about two things; am I ok and will I get an erection when I have to take my pants off.

Home

I got up really really early this morning, went for a run and then worked out at my gym.  I did the hills this morning so my legs are screaming, "Jared what the fuck are you doing! 

I looked around at this beautiful city as I ran.  I really took it in this time and thought how lucky I am to be living here.  There are so many times I just get so busy and into my life that I forget where I live.

It is so normal to be gay here.  It is so normal to be different here.  No one even looks twice at you if you are different.  Different is the norm here.

This has to be one of the most beautiful cities in the world.  There are landmarks and stunning views at every turn.  On my run this morning I passed houses built the the 1800's, I passed gay couples walking along the streets hand in hand,  I passed a guy in a kilt, I passed an electric bus, and I passed two guys smoking 420, both sporting mohawks. 

Even though I constantly complain about the weather and long for my hometown beaches, I would live no where else in the world right now.

j

Ok boys, drop em

Ok.  So it's Monday MLK and I had to work.  I didn't enjoy it.

Jeff update:  He isn't moving upstairs and we aren't making this place into one house.  I'm a little bummed about it.  At least for now we aren't doing any rennovations.  Jeff has decided to become a landlord and rent it out.  I think he may have over-extended himself buying it.  Yes he had a huge down-payment but still.  I am sooo glad I didn't take a sledge hammer to the wall.  Ok and there was the permit thing too.  Thanks for the heads up CF.

Jared update:  I'm doing something naughty Thursday night.  Let's just say it has something to do with a group of guys and um, nudity.  Ok that is all you get just in case one of the participants reads my blog.  I did put a hint in one of the areas of my blog two weeks ago and left it there for a week before taking it down.

Nathan update:  Mmmmmm . . . tasty . . .

later

j

The house

I didn't realize a lot of readers don't know what San Francisco housing looks like.  San Francisco is littered with Victorian houses.  Many, many of the old Victorians like the one above were converted into flats in the 1940's and 50's to address the housing shortage and make it more affordable.  Two doors are placed on the outside where there is one.  The top floor is one flat and the bottom floor a second. 

Our place (or I should say mostly Jeff's place since Nathan and I only own 1/3 of 1/2 of it) looks very similar to this one.  It was built in the late 1890's and converted in the late 40's.  The flat itself consists of four rooms in a row:  Living room (originally the parlor), Nathan/Jared's bedroom (originally the living room), Jeff's bedroom (also a dining room if Jeff' didn't live there) and kitchen.  There is one long hallway to the right connecting all the rooms.  It is a little bigger than a condo but not much.  The rooms are quite large though and the kitchen is as big as all the other rooms.  We can get a huge farm table that seats six (eight if you squeeze).

Jeff is working out all the details, the tenants moved out yesterday and I bought a sledge hammer.  As soon as those papers are signed I intend to knock a hole though the walls dividing the entryways and either force him to at least do a minimum conversion back to one house or put a door there so we don't have to go outside to get up there.

At least now we will all have room to breath.  This flat was getting a little small for us.  Especially when we all have guests.

Have a great day.

j

The Wrestling Boys of Turkey

Jeff announced tonight that he is moving out.  It was a dramatic moment.  I began to well up thinking it was our fight.  Nathan almost left the room.  I thought we had all made up this morning and I couldn't believe what I was hearing. 

Evil as he is, Jeff paused and let the words sink in knowing what we would be thinking.  Then, a grin.  We both know that evil grin.  He was up to something.  OMG what has he done now.

"I've already made an offer and I'm using the rest of my bonus as a down payment.  It's as good as done." Nathan and I didn't know what to think.  Was he joking? 

Another dramatic pause.  He laughed this time.  "Guys.  I'm serious.  I called the upstairs landlord and made him an offer.  In a month or so the whole building is ours!"

Istanbulmike on flickr took these photos of guys resting after a wrestling match in June.  You can see the friendship and the love in their eyes.  I'm so glad my match with Jeff and Nathan is over.

Happy New Year!!!

As I hit the slopes and party this New Years Eve, I am celebrating my sexual freedom and the loves of my life Nathan and Jeffery.  As I did last year, I've made a list of the things that I want to accomplish, not only sexually but in all of my life.  I shared a lot of those accomplishments with you over the year.  As the next year progresses, I will build my relationship with Nathan, I'll most likely be changing jobs to expand my career and follow my calling, and I know I'll be sharing more and more of that with you.

I wish you all this best this year.  Make a commitment to yourself to go out an explore your desires, live life as you want and not what others want of you, and don't hold back.  If you've been wanting to do it for a long time or even think you want to do it, just get out there and have fun.

I'm so stoked about what is coming in the next year!!

jared christopher

As I hit the slopes and party this New Years Eve, I am celebrating my sexual freedom and the loves of my life Nathan and Jeffery.  As I did last year, I've made a list of the things that I want to accomplish, not only sexually but in all of my life.  I shared a lot of those accomplishments with you over the year.  As the next year progresses, I will build my relationship with Nathan, I'll most likely be changing jobs to expand my career and follow my calling, and I know I'll be sharing more and more of that with you.

I wish you all this best this year.  Make a commitment to yourself to go out an explore your desires, live life as you want and not what others want of you, and don't hold back.  If you've been wanting to do it for a long time or even think you want to do it, just get out there and have fun.

I'm so stoked about what is coming in the next year!!

jared christopher

No plans

I can't fucking believe it.  The new year is just a few days away and we have NO plans to celebrate, no parties to go to, no dinner plans, no plans to go out dancing.  I totally blame Jeff and if he ever gets home tonight from his date, I'm going to let him have it!

San Francisco just doesn't do the new year all that well.  Maybe we should go to Vegas or LA or something.  Hmmm.  What are you guys doing?

Merry Christmas

 

Christmas Eve

Nathan, Jeff and I are celebrating Christmas again this year together.  Jeff hosted a party last week themed, 'A Surfer's Christmas'.  He decked out our sand-filled backyard with heat lamps, surf boards, beach towels and liquor.  Jeff fired up the barbecue and we had grilled chicken, hamburgers, ribs and steak kabobs.  I just prayed it wouldn't rain and I guess my prayers were answered.  Everyone wore boardies, some with shirts and some without.  Jeff bought Santa hats for everyone.  It was really cool and went much better than I expected.  Oh yeah and there was one bikini . . .

Thoughts

Sometimes the thought of the act is actually hotter than the act itself.

Sometimes the journey is far better than the climax.

Sometimes when the length of the journey is to too long it can be a complete turnoff.

Sometimes when the act deviates from the plan it can be a complete turnoff.

Just some things I have observed. 

What have you observed?

Bad . . . Very Bad!

I just sat here and ate a whole cheesecake and I don't fucking care who knows it . . . but don't tell Nathan ok . . .

How I first met Nathan

Wow, the memories came flooding back as I wrote this.  I never thought I would be telling this story, in such a public forum, about such an intimate time in my life.  I am a little embarrassed and I'm not sure I really want to post this and let you in so deep.  So I'm just going to hold my breath and click submit.

I've stood completely naked here before about myself so this can't be much different right?  Here we go . . .

Jared's MySpace

I'm getting my haircut just about like this tomorrow.  Man I want to know what is behind that underwear.

A lot of you have been asking me if I have a myspace account.  Until today I didn't but now I do.  Just go to http://www.myspace.com/jaredchristopherblack and leave your mark dude. 

Completely Naked Thanksgiving

This is how I spent my Thanksgiving last year.  Who knew Nathan and I would be married a year later.  I am so fucking thankful for him.  He still sleeps on top of the covers and runs around here with a hard-on.  I still love that he is so comfortable with his body.  We still play together just like that.

I am also thankful that all of you visit me so often, leave comments and e-mail me.

Have a fucking wonderful Thanksgiving.  I love you guys. . .

jared

If I had to do it all over again . . .

I was thinking this weekend if I had to do my life all over I wouldn't change the broad direction and path but there are some tweaks I would have made.  This I learned as I was reflecting today on how to approach the subject on how Nate and I met. 

I love life with Nathan even when we sit home and do nothing.  Here is my list of tweaks.  I know some of it is stupid and shallow and some of it is even conflicting but a lot of the time I am stupid, shallow and conflicted and that I would never change.  I forced myself to list quickly once I put my hands on the keyboard and not think about it once I got started.  That way both you and I see what is really at the surface of my thoughts.

Here we go . . .

If I had to do it all over again I would have:

• Learned several languages.
• Not spent so much time in post-graduate studies.
• Not spent so much time on my career.
• Purchased a house right after I graduated.
• Listened more to my father.
• Come out in high school.
• Taken a year off to travel before I got my masters.
• Continued the piano lessons.
• Started working in the not-for-profit world earlier in my career.
• Not let those fucking kids make me believe how ugly I was.
• Stayed closer to my family.
• Allowed that artist to draw me nude when I had the chance.
• Played more sports in high school just to make friends.
• Worked out harder.
• Not be so scared of what people think of me.
• Discovered my fetishes earlier than 30.
• Spent more time naked.
• Spent money on something other than that stupid car.
• Researched before I acted.
• Not shaved my fucking head cause I miss my long hair.

I would love to see yours so sit down right now, reflect, and send it to jaredinsf@gmail.com or if you are brave, post it in the comments section.

Settling down?

Our life has become totally boring.  We have settled in together and rarely go out on adventures like we did just a year ago.  I can remember a time when we went out for dancing, sex or just whatever almost seven days a week and work two jobs and go to school.  Now we barely leave the city.  Fuck, we barely leave our home.  I hope it is just a phase but I have watched so many people slow down as they move through their thirties.  I am afraid it is happening to us.

I told Nathan we have to get out of our rut.  We decided to go out to dinner and maybe hit a bar or two last night.  We made it to dinner, met up with two other couples and had a great time.  There were yawns around the table during the whole dinner including ours.  One couple was talking about how they were adopting while the other was talking about buying their second home in Tahoe.  I kept looking at Nathan in horror that we might end up with nothing better to talk about.

We ended up not going out but headed back home and going to bed.  I'm going to have to make another adventure list or something. 

Meanwhile, I am writing now about how Nathan and I first met.  I should have it up by middle of this week.

Hope you had a great weekend.

j

Miami teasers

My buddy Douglas, a Realtor in Miami, has been sending me pics of condo views ever since I mentioned I wanted to move back.  The reality is Nathan and Jeff don't want to move.  They like California.  I like looking at the photos and dreaming though.

I can just imagine never wearing a shirt again, the year round HOT weather, the rain and thunderstorms, the beaches.  It is an awesome place!

The price of loneliness

I know, I know, I am being way overly dramatic but that is just the mood I am in this morning.  So my one day of being by myself cost me a small fortune.  I had a two hour Reiki/Shiatsu massage by my healer in the Mission right after I left the last post.  That alone set me back a huge coin.  Then, once I was physically and mentally aligned, I made my way over to the electronic store.  That is where things really went down hill!

I bought it not just because I had nothing better to do but because I have been wanting one ever since they came out.  Nathan will be back here within the next few hours and he is probably going to flip out and I might even get a spanking for it.

A little lonely and sad today

Winter is back.  It has been raining all week here in SF.  It is cloudy and chilly and I already long for the warm ocean breeze.  I hate winter and I hate cold.  It completely depresses me.

Nathan and Jeff are both gone for the weekend.  Nathan is on a field trip with his kids and Jeff is on a sleepover with his flavor of the weekend.  It all happened so fast I didn't make plans.

So I am sitting here this Saturday morning on the Internet looking at hot guy pics and beaches while I wait for my friends to return the phone calls I made today in a desperate attempt to have something to do.

So . . . what are you doing today boys and girls?

Somebody get me a cigarette

Ha ha, I don't really smoke but it has been a hell of a week and I just got totally plowed by my honey.  Yup.  This is real time.  We just showered and he is making us a little snack before we settle in and watch a little TV.  I am very very satisfied right now ;)

I'll have a bigger post and the rest of my Asian Master adventure this weekend.

later
j

My Week

Monday:  wake, stress, work, stress, eat, sleep. stress at beach

Tuesday: wake, stress, work, stress, eat, sleep.

Wednesday: wake, stress, work, stress, eat, sleep.

Thursday: wake, stress, work, stress, eat, sleep.

Friday:  fucking wake, fucking stress, fucking work, fucking stress, fucking eat, fucking sleep.

Saturday:  sex, yoga, sex, massage, sex, sex, sex . . . Nathan better take his vitamins!!

On the road to recovery

I've never really seen Jeff cry so much.  I feel for him but at the same time I look at him in awe.  Even sobbing and crying he is so beautiful with his long blond hair, his glasses that he wears so much lately.  Jeff is muscular even in his face.  He has this cute little dimple right in the middle of his chin and one on his cheek.

Nathan was busy working on restoring a car for a friend last night so I decided to take Jeff out.  We went to this place in the mission where we used to go often.  It was the same place that I posted about here.  He had forgotten what we did that night but I reminded him.  I told him about how I loved that he was so comfortable with himself and that I loved when we lay in bed together and laugh and laugh at the most stupid shit.  I also told him that I cherished how we have spent the last ten, now eleven years together with Nathan and that I loved him, that he was my family and I will always love him and take care of him.

We fell asleep watching old movies in bed.  Sometime in the night Nathan came home and this morning I woke once again buried in the middle of my family:  Nathan, naked, hanging half over the bed and drooling all over the pillow and Jeff on his back buried under the cover snoring like a chainsaw.

It's Monday!!!

Did you guys miss me this week?  I couldn't help it.  Nathan and I have been spending a lot of time with Jeff.  His boyfriend broke up with him and he isn't taking it well.  We've been sleeping in the same bed for a week now.  I feel for him but I also love when the three of us sleep together.  If it were up to me I would have us sleep together all the time.  I love the warmth.  I love hearing them breathe.  I sleep in the middle.

I will hopefully finish up parts 3 and 4 of my story this week.

Halloween is coming up and for once in our lives we don't yet have plans nor do we know what we are going to wear as costumes.  I'm kinda of bored with the whole sex themed ones like for the party we went to last year.  That was wild.   I don't know where those guys are.  I went by the place and I am sure they don't live there anymore.  It has been painted a color I know they wouldn't have painted it.

Nathan and I got a tantric coach to help us build on our love life.  We only went once and I giggled the whole time.  As we get more into it I am sure I will have stories.

Have a great Monday boys and girls . . .

jared